My name is Biodun Ogunyemi and I’m the creator of Slim Quest System. Slim Quest System consists of four sessions, and in this first session I’m going to be explaining to you the process of Slim Quest System that can allow you to have the body that you want. You see when you think about losing weight, losing weight is a process and when you consider it right now you already know how to lose weight. In other words, when you think about losing weight, most people at some point in their life have been on a diet. By going on a diet, you restrict your calories which means if you cut down on your calories, you end up losing weight. The challenge is when you start eating normal again you end up putting all the weight back on and more. Really it’s not your fault because most people will know how to lose weight back on the diet.
But let’s consider this for a moment. If you already know what to do and you’ve been doing it for so many years, then ask yourself one question: Why is it not working? The reason it’s not working is because 99% of diet simply don’t work. If you consider all the diet programs that you’ve been on in the past, most of these programs rely on you coming back time and time again because if you’re not on the diet, you end up putting the weight back on. When you consider all the people out there that are happy with their shape, happy with their body, are at the right weight that they want to be, these are the people you should be speaking to. You see, they’re not on diets. You see, you need to change on the inside first. You need to change your mind set. You need to start changing your relationship with food. You need to change your long term habits and your behaviours.
The next question is how do you do that? You see, because if you already knew how to do that, then you will do that. You see, when you consider hypnosis, hypnosis is about focusing your attention on the particular issue so that you focus your attention on the particular issue so that you no longer have that issue. Most people each and every day enter a state of trance. One of the states for hypnosis as a state of trance is not the only one but it’s one of them. By using the trance state, people go into natural trance state each and every day. Natural trance state consists of times that somebody could be sitting in the traffic lights. The traffic lights change and the person’s still sitting there. Or possibly you’re in a lift and it’s not your fault but the doors open and you step up or you’re engrossed in a book, you’re reading a book. Somebody shouts your name and you’re not even aware of them. Alternatively you’re watching a film and you’re so engrossed in the film that you’re not aware of what’s going on around you. These are all natural trance states. In other words, your focus of attention is somewhere else. Certain things are outside your conscious awareness at that time because you’re so focused. People access these states all day long. You see, if you can daydream, then you can access a state of trance. If you go to sleep at night, you pass through a trance state. If you wake up in the morning, you pass through a trance state.
Now there’s a part of you that controls all your long term habits, all your behaviours. You see, consciously as you listen to me right now, you have a conscious mind and that’s the part of you that is logical. That’s the part of you that is responsible for reasoning. That’s the part that you use to make decisions in everyday life. But then there’s another part of you, the unconscious mind which is the part that controls your emotions, controls your long term habits and your behaviours. You see, you don’t decide to wake up one morning and all of a sudden feel good. That part of you that controls your emotions, controls your long term habits and behaviours is much more powerful than the conscious part of you. So if you imagine that your conscious mind is the captain of the ship and your unconscious mind is the crew, the ship being your body. As long as the captain, in other words the conscious mind, keeps on giving the right instructions to the crew, the unconscious mind, then everything’s fine. As soon as there’s a conflict, then it becomes an issue. You see, the captain cannot run that ship all by himself.
You see as you go on this journey each and every day, I want you to ask yourself one question. Losing weight. What will losing weight do for you? In other words, what difference is it going to make to your life? You see, a lot of people consider that it’s all about the numbers on the scales or the clothes they’re going to fit into. But I’d like you to ask yourself the question: what’s that going to do for you? You see, for most people it’s going to make them feel more confident. It’s going to make them feel better about themselves. It’s going to boost their self-esteem. Possibly it’s going to increase their health levels. You see, it’s all about feeling good because the weight itself doesn’t really mean anything. It’s time to consider this actual goal that you want to achieve and know that it’s about change in your shape, change in your body so that you can feel good about yourself so that you can feel more confident so that you can increase your levels of motivation to do the things that you want to do. It’s all about feeling better about yourself.
Now I know that most people at some point have gone on a journey. You see, if I consider going somewhere, for example if I was travelling on an airplane somewhere or a train, then I know I’ve got to start my journey somewhere and I know I’ve got to end my journey somewhere. Now when you consider this journey that you’re on right now, the first thing that you need to consider is you need to know where you are today. You need to know where you’re starting off from. So in other words you need to know what weight you are just now or a representation of yourself right now. The next thing you need to know is you need to know where you’re going. You need to know what you want to achieve. I want you to consider it carefully. Consider what you want to achieve and take a sheet of paper. Write down where you are today. In other words, what weight you are, what size you are. Whatever description you want to write down. And then I want you to write where you’re going to be when you achieve this goal. In other words, whether it’s your weight, whether it’s a dress size. Whatever comes to mind I want you to write it down. You see, because you need to know where you’re going and most people don’t even know where they’re going. If you take a hundred people on the street and ask them if they want to lose weight, most of them will say yes.
So I’d like you to consider what you actually want out of this process. I’d like you to consider what difference it would make to your life. As you write down the differences it would make to your life, as you write down what you want to achieve, the next thing I’d like you to write down is I’d like you to write down what date comes to mind. In other words, when do you want to achieve this by? The important thing about the timeline is putting this date on it is to allow you to focus your mind. As you focus your mind, you can start to measure how close you’re getting to that goal. As long as each and every day you feel good as you move towards that goal, you think about the goal and you feel good, think about the goal and you feel good, then you keep on creating that desire to move towards that goal.
So go ahead and just take the time to do that now and I’ll play some music in the background.
So now that you know exactly where you are right now you’ve written down your goal, you’ve written down where you’re starting from and you’ve got a time scale on that piece of paper, the other thing to start considering is your emotions. What I’d like you to do is to start to write down every single thing that you put into your mouth. This is for the conscious part of your mind so that you can look back over the weeks as we go through this process as you begin to change. You start to look back. You start to recognize how your written habits are changing. You start to recognize all the things that you’re no longer eating, all the things that you’re cutting out completely. It can happen automatically. So it’s important that you start to write down what you have for breakfast, and if you’re not having breakfast, start having breakfast because your body needs breakfast. If you’ve not eaten for six to seven, eight hours before that, then it’s time to break that fast and have a breakfast. You see, by not eating anything or by keeping yourself hungry, all you’re doing is slowing down your metabolism. So it’s time to eat when you’re hungry. It’s time to eat smaller portions so you can start to speed up that metabolism.
As you’re writing down every single thing that you’re putting into your mouth, but more importantly writing down how you feel, what’s going on with your emotions. In other words are you eating because you’re stressed? Are you eating because you’re tired? Are you eating because you’re angry, because you’re sad? Because you’re bored? You’re eating because you’re out with friends because you’re socializing? I want you to write down and start to notice what’s going on in your emotions so that you can figure out of all the things you’ve written down when you’re actually hungry.
You see most people that are at the right weight, most people that are happy with their body, they have a different relationship with food. In other words, they don’t diet. They eat what they want when they want. It’s just that a lot of the time they eat things in moderation. The first thing I’d like you to do right now is just completely cut out the word diet from your vocabulary. You see, every single time you tell people you’re on a diet, you create what you call conscious resistance. In other words, you know for the last ten, fifteen, maybe five, maybe twenty years that diets haven’t worked. So every time you tell yourself that you’re going on another diet, you automatically know that it’s not going to work. You see, because if it had worked, then you wouldn’t be listening to me. So it’s time to get rid of that word diet. You can let all the people out there that want to be on a diet to carry on with their diets. Carry on spending their money on all these diets.
The next thing I’d like you to which is simple is to drink more water to rehydrate your body so that you can start to test whether you’re hungry or whether you’re thirsty. You see, eating food is for energy. I want you to consider the last time you were actually hungry. I want you to consider the last time you had something to eat. When you consider that time, I want you to ask yourself what was your reason for eating that food. Were you hungry or were you just stressed? Were you bored? Were you tired?
Because most people eat when they’re emotional. Most people eat when they’re tired, bored, stressed or when these things are going on. It’s time to start considering that the time that you should be eating is when you’re hungry. I’m sure there are so many people that haven’t had that hunger coming up for probably years. Eating nowadays is all about socializing. You see, the way the brain works is by association. So you start to create times and places that you’ve done something and you’ve enjoyed it such as eating food. You start to associate that to enjoying yourself so that whenever you want to feel better about yourself, you turn to food. Some people automatically put the kettle on, make a cup of tea, and before the kettle’s boiled, they reach in for the biscuits. In other words, it’s an automatic behavior. You find yourself doing it without even thinking about it. It’s time to take that step back. See yourself about to do that behaviour so that you can feel different about it. You see, when you feel different about stuffing yourself with all the things you shouldn’t be eating, then it allows you to break that pattern. It allows you to stop so that you can break that habit completely.
You see, it’s time to consider how you can feel different about the things you eat at the moment. One of the important things is you start slowing down your eating. If you’re eating in front of the television, you start to cut that out. If you’re reading at the same time as you’re eating, you can cut that out. You see, one of the most important things is you concentrate on the food that’s in front of you. Just sit down to eat the food and then you concentrate on it. You slow down your eating and you start to consider how much of that you can leave on the plate. You see, over time we’ve been conditioned as we were being brought up to finish all the food on our plate because every time that we finish our food on the plate, we got a pat on the back and we were told how good we were because we finished all our food.
I’d like you to consider this. If you’re finishing all the food on your plate, who’s deciding how much food that you’re eating? So in other words, is it the person that’s making it? Is that chef or is that whoever cooks in the house? When you consider children, most of the time you hear parents saying to their children, “You need to finish all the food in your plate. You need to finish your dinner. Now if you don’t finish your dinner, you’re not having any dessert.” In other words, you’re not having any ice cream. Then you hear the child saying, “Well, I’m full.” Of course their answer is “Well, if you’re full, you can’t have any ice cream.” So then what happens is the child ends up forcing themselves to eat the rest of the food so they can then have ice cream. So not only are they full but now you stuff ice cream down their throat as well. You see, it’s time to consider things differently. You can start to slow down your eating. Start to focus on what you’re eating so that whenever you’ve got anything in front of you, you can start to ask yourself, “What is this going to do for me?” So any food you’ve got in front of you you can ask yourself, “What’s this going to do for me?” Because often we’re on an automatic behaviour where we just start eating. We don’t consider the food. We just start putting it in our mouth and eating it. This could be a result of the unconscious mind trying to make us feel comfortable. Maybe if you’re stressed and you use food as a comfort or if you’re tired, bored, angry.
You see, a lot of the time it’s to do with emotions. It’s nothing to do with being hungry. It’s time to just consider all of these particular emotions that are going on and how you can feel different. You see whenever you find yourself in a behaviour that you don’t want, for example you find yourself eating certain things that you don’t want to eat. I want you to imagine that you’re standing in front of a mirror, a full-length mirror, and imagine you’re standing on a set of scales looking at that mirror so you can see your body. I want you to scan your body all the way down and then all the way back up. As you look at yourself in the mirror with that particular piece of food that you’re about to eat, holding it in your hand, whether it’s cakes, biscuits, or whatever it is, glance down at the scales. See what the number says. Glance back at the mirror. See yourself completely naked. Make sure you notice everything that you need to notice as you scan your body all the way down and then all the way back up holding whatever you’re holding in your hand. And then see how you feel about it. You see, if you do that and you still want to eat it, then that’s fine. You can eat it. Then you don’t need to feel guilty about it. You see, it’s time to consider that food is really for energy. It’s time to consider that the people that are the weight that they want to be have a completely different relationship with food. They treat food differently. You might see them eating biscuits. The difference is they don’t eat packets of biscuits.
One of the things most people talk about is losing weight. When you talk about losing weight or you talk about losing anything, for example take the example of losing your watch, the first thing you do is you go and look for it. The unconscious mind, when you talk about losing weight, where does the weight go? So when you lose that weight and all of a sudden you start feeling uncomfortable with yourself, you start feeling your stress levels going up, the unconscious mind is there to make you feel comfortable. So all it does is it goes along and finds that weight again so you gain all that weight back. And that’s why when people start to eat regularly again as they come off the diet, they start to put more weight on. In fact, they end up putting more weight on than they previously weighed. That process of changing on the outside is exactly what happens. You just change on the outside. The change really needs to take place on the inside because when it takes place on the inside, your whole relationship, everything changes. And the weight stays off and never goes back on. I’m sure many of you have seen people where they’ve just changed. They’ve decided enough is enough. They’ve changed and all of a sudden, that weight starts to drop off.
One of the interesting things is a lot of people say to me, “As soon as I lose this weight, I can’t wait because I’m going to feel more confident. When I lose this weight, I’m going to feel better. When I lose this weight, I’m going to feel healthy. When I lose this weight, my self-esteem levels are going to go through the roof.” I’m sorry to tell you that that’s not true. You see, your confidence is already inside you right now. Your self-esteem levels are already inside you so that if you’re confident already, then as your body changes you become more confident. You see, you need to feel good now, knowing that you’re going to achieve that goal. Knowing that things are about to change. Knowing that it’s more important that you achieve this goal. What’s your desire to achieve this goal? In other words, on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest, what’s your desire? Do you believe that you can achieve this goal that you’ve written down? When you close your eyes and imagine yourself achieving this goal, do you actually believe it? You see, you need to believe it. You need to have abundant desire to achieve this goal so that everything falls into place. It reminds me of the story of the young man that went up to his master and asked him, “I’d like you to tell me the meaning of truth.” The master looked at him and said, “Well, just consider that.” As the young man searched around for the meaning of truth, a few days later he went back up to his master and says, “You know, I’d like you to tell me the meaning of truth.” And the master said, “You now, just keep on considering it. If you consider it often, you’ll find it.” The young man of course was slightly confused, but anyway he just went about his daily chores until one day the master was walking along the path. The young man with him. They walked down to a stream. As they walked down to the stream, they waded into the stream and the master pulled the young man and put his head under the water and held on to the water. Of course the young man started to struggle because he couldn’t breathe. As he struggled, he then thought to himself, “Wait a minute. Maybe he’s trying to allow me to find the meaning of truth” so he stopped struggling. A minute past and his head was still under the water and he was gasping for air and he couldn’t hold on any longer so he kicked the master and the master pulled him up. As the master pulled him up, he just walked away. Didn’t say a word. Of course the young man was shocked by this and really confused and couldn’t understand what was happening as he made his way back home. The master never said a word to him.
A few days past, the master was the first to speak, and he said to him, “How do you feel?” The young man said, “Well, really confused and I don’t know what’s going because I could have died.” The master said, “When I held your head under the water, what did you desire?” The young man said, “Well, I desire to find the meaning of truth.” He said, “When I held your head under the water and you couldn’t breathe, what did you desire the most?” The young man said, “Well, I desired a breath of fresh air.” The master says, “Yes, that’s right. So when you desire to find the meaning of truth as much as you desire that breath of fresh air, then you’ll find the meaning of truth.”
You see, I’d like to ask that important question. Just ask yourself how much desire have you got to change your shape? How much desire have you got right now to change your body? How much desire have you got to be more confident? To feel healthier? Because there’s nothing that can stop you from achieving this goal other than yourself. It’s important that you consider that right now because otherwise if you don’t believe that you can achieve it, then you’re absolutely right. Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you can’t.” There’s no doubt that consciously you’ve tried to solve this particular issue time and time again. The interesting thing that Einstein says is “The same level of thinking that caused the problem cannot be used to solve the problem.” You see, you need a different level of thinking. You need to have abundant desire to achieve this goal, otherwise the particular things that are causing the issue such as the cake, biscuits, and all the things you keep putting into your body that you know you shouldn’t be and you can’t stop yourself from doing that, you find that you continue to do that. You see, how many times when you look in that mirror and you feel negative about your body? How many times do you see any food around? You see, the food’s not usually there because every time you look at that body and you pass by that mirror and you look at yourself and you feel negative about yourself so you attach all the negative feeling and the negative associations to yourself. It’s never attached to the cake and the biscuits, the alcohol that you’re drinking. It’s never attached to that because when you think about going out, you think about drinking alcohol, you think about how you’re going to have such a great time and how alcohol makes you feel good and about all the socializing. These are all associations because the way the mind works is by association, so you attach the feelings of goodness to the alcohol. People attach relaxation to smoking cigarettes. Relieving stress to having a cigarette. It doesn’t happen.
You see, you don’t walk into the shop and say, “Can I have some relaxation cigarettes please?” If cigarettes made you relaxed, they prescribe on [0:32:41.4 inaudible] and it doesn’t happen. So it’s really time to consider what is your level of desire to achieve this goal? How much do you want to achieve this goal? When you answer that question, you believe that you can actually achieve the goal that you’ve set. Whether that goal needs to change, whether you need to adjust this slightly it doesn’t really matter. But when you believe that you can achieve this goal beyond everything else, beyond all the parties that you can go to, beyond Christmas because there’s going to be times and places that when you’re on this track, when you’re on this journey that you will fall off track. You see, 80% of the time if you’re doing all the right things and you’ve got all the right behaviours, the other 20% doesn’t really matter. How many people can think of times when you start that so-called diet on a Sunday. Monday, Tuesday you’re fine. But Wednesday you’re falling off track. Thursday, you finally blow out. So Friday, Saturday, Sunday. You might as well start again on Monday. Monday comes again and you go through the same cycle week after week, month after month, year after year. And you wonder why you keep on putting more weight on and more weight on. And then you say it’s not your fault. It’s not your fault because “I’ve got slow metabolism.” Metabolism is not fixed. “It’s in my genes. Everybody in my family is overweight.” You see, these are all excuses and limit in beliefs. It’s time to consider what is your desire to achieve this goal beyond everything else you’ve considered right now. So that when you close your eyes and you imagine yourself achieving this goal you can see yourself the way you want to be. You can connect with all the feelings inside of feeling good. Imagining that you’ve achieved the goal. You open your eyes. You see what you see, hear what you hear, feel what you feel. Have those fantastic feelings inside of feeling good every time you think about that goal. You think about that goal all the time and it’s constantly on your mind, constantly feeling good about it.
You see, when you start feeling good thinking about that goal, it’s time to change the goal. Most people that walk around feeling bad about the way they are, feeling bad about the way they feel about their body, and they wonder why they keep on putting on more weight. It’s time to allow the unconscious part of your mind, trusting that unconscious part to do the job that it needs to do so that you can move forward. So that you can achieve this goal.
You see, when you consider hypnosis to focus on these particular issues so that you can find a solution. There’s a lot of myths about hypnosis as well because when you’re under hypnosis which can be a trance state. It’s the only way to induce hypnosis because you can use confusion. You don’t need your eyes closed. You can have eyes open trance as well. However when you consider hypnosis, if you’ve got a secret you keep in awakened state and you will that in hypnosis. There’s no difference. The difference with hypnosis is you will be aware of everything going on. In fact, you’ll be more aware because it’s a focused state of attention. In other words, you will hear exactly what I’m saying. You will be more aware of what’s going on around you. You see, if you don’t hear anything, you don’t feel anything, that’s a different state probably called death. So you will be aware of everything around you.
That reminds me of the lady who was a fantastic subject on one of these stage shows. Bear in mind that the people that are up on that stage are up on that stage because they want to do the things that they’re being told to do. They’re extrovert and they want to entertain. After they were told to do something that normally they wouldn’t do, they would not do that. That reminds me of this woman who was doing everything the hypnotist asked her to do. She was the absolute star of the show. She did absolutely everything until it came to the end of the night and the hypnotist asked, “I want everybody to dance.” This woman did not move. She stood there. She would not dance. Of course after the show he pulled her aside and asked her, “You know, you were fantastic all night. One thing I’d like to ask you. When I asked you to dance, why didn’t you dance?” She turned around and says, “Well, it’s against my morals to dance because I don’t dance in front of men.”
You see, anything you’re asked to do in awakened state that you wouldn’t do you wouldn’t do under hypnosis either. So it’s time to consider the process of using this state to change your long term habits and behaviours so that you can achieve that goal and you can have that body that you’ve always dreamed of.
I’d like to end this session here because in our next session we’ll be dealing with any cravings that you’ve got. We’ll be dealing with cutting out certain things that could be causing an issue. Certain things like biscuits, cakes, or whatever you want to cut out completely. So this is the end of this session. I want you to move on to second track which is the hypnosis track which will help you change that relationship with food.